This site is no longer being updated. I felt irrational anger toward him for showing up to town and innocently, unwittingly enabling one of my close guy friends to get back with a toxic ex — just before he was set to fly back to the West Coast and completely avoid the aftermath. I also noticed he had the well-timed wit that all my womanizing exes had shared. But I do remember that he made me laugh in spite of myself and that a seed of something was planted that night.
But you must. Give a carefully planned personal gift. Make them a bite with your hands for additional benefit points. Run an errand designed for them or go out of your way to make animation easier for them in a few way. Well, guess who got tickets? Remember stuff about them. Show up to support them when they need it be there for them when a pet or loved one is ill or has died.