Do I Just Hate Sex? Often what lies beneath these statements are feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, and fear. Many women feel broken but try and suffer through it by having sex any way—or they find ways to avoid it as much as possible. Sometimes that is tolerable for a while, but slowly over time, a more pronounced sexual aversion can occur. And when that happens, often all sexual intimacy screeches to a halt. Both partners are left feeling frustrated, disconnected, and hopeless. What Does This Mean? It means journaling about how you feel about sexual intimacy, how you feel about your body, what your past experiences have been, what things have impacted you along the way in your sexual development, what assumptions you brought with you to your sexual relationship. Journaling about what healthy sexuality and intimacy look like to you and what consent means to you, even within a marriage relationship.