Ask Ammanda: I'm gay but I've fallen in love with a straight man Ask Ammanda: I'm gay but I've fallen in love with a straight man Four months ago, while working away from home on a contract, I hooked up with a guy on a dating site. It was an incredible experience. He said he was straight though, and that he had never been with a guy before, apart from messing around in his teens and was just curious. Within minutes of our rendezvous, he messaged me to say how fantastic the sex was and that he wanted to see me again. However, he is living with his partner of fifteen years and their twelve-year-old child. I was also in a four-year relationship, so was being unfaithful too.
I kept dismissing complaints from men that feminist advancements were chief to an unfair double accepted. But they kept coming. Could it really be true? Men I know, and many add I do not, reach absent to me to tell me they feel wronged — silenced, even. I raised an eyebrow and moved on. Now, a lot of guys have en route for watch what they say. Although as frustrating as the pushback felt, it became increasingly apparent that there was no denying the consistency, and therefore authenticity, of the feelings that were being thrown at me. Acknowledging the validity of this attitude, I began to wonder but silencing was legitimately what was going on. So I accepted wisdom to really understand how misunderstood, robbed, wronged and silenced men felt, I should hand above the microphone to them.
Tony Silva argues that these men — many of whom benefit from hunting, fishing and shooting guns — are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting. After interviewing 60 of these men above three years, Dr. Silva bring into being that they enjoy a array of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, altogether while strongly identifying with above-board culture. We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book. Why do straight-identified men have femininity with other men?
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